Bedtime with my daughters has always been fun for me. They're starting to wind down (most nights), they're sweet, they want lots of hugs. Unfortunately, learning to use the potty has made bedtime a frustrating event.
Here's what happens most nights: we go upstairs and, if it's not bath night, everyone changes into her pajamas. One at a time they'll go to the bathroom to brush their teeth. I always ask: Do you need to use the potty? With Tortilla and Cakes the answer will vary. If they've gone to the bathroom within the last hour then they're good for the night. Roo and Sue Sue give the same answer each night: No. It doesn't matter if it has been five hours since they used the toilet, they don't want to go right before bedtime. Why? Because the rule is simple: you must stay in your bed unless you need to go potty.
I've tried to force them on the toilet at bedtime. Doesn't work. I've threatened to simply let them wet the bed. Still doesn't work (and quite frankly I don't want to deal with the extra laundry). So here's what happens.... the second I turn the light out Sue Sue says she needs to go potty. Well if she gets to go then you can bet Roo is going to want to go, too. For awhile I simply went downstairs and let them do their thing. Big mistake. It turned into a half hour of Roo and Sue Sue running up and down the hall.
So here is our new bedtime routine: They brush their teeth. I turn out the light. Then I immediately ask Sue Sue if she needs to go potty. She does. Then Roo takes her turn. Then I stay in their room a few minutes to make sure they've settled down. It seems to be working... for now. I'm just wondering what the next excuse will be to get out of bed.
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