Yesterday started out as a fairly simple day. I worked for 8 1/2 hours, but it was stress-free and went by pretty fast. Then I came home, checked Facebook, and found myself puzzled. People were posting disturbing things on one friend's page. After the use of Google, I found myself staring at a sickening news headline "Man kills self and two sons." My reaction? "No. NO. Do NOT let this be the what everyone is referring to." To make a long story short, my friend came home the other night and found her husband and two sons (6 and 8) shot to death. It has been ruled murder-suicide.
Let me just say, on the off chance that this friend or those who know her might be reading this post, that I am not trying to trivialize or sensationalize her grief. I am just stunned and need to get it out. She and I were friends in high school. She lived in my neighborhood (a few blocks away). We rode the bus together. We were in marching band together. We drifted apart after high school, but kept in touch through Facebook. She was a sweetheart, one of the nicest people I have ever known.
I'm angry. I'm shocked. I'm saddened. Why do people do this? If you want to leave this world, for whatever reason, OK. Well, not OK, but you know what I mean. But why... why... WHY???? Why would the children be involved in this?!
The news stories just keep coming. Reporters are speculating on what went "wrong" in their marriage, in their family, in their life. As a former reporter, I am embarrassed to read what some outlets are reporting... neighborhood gossip at its worst. Some outlets have gone so far as to lift family photos from her Facebook page. (Blame her lack of "privacy protection" on those pictures, but perhaps she didn't realize her settings. How do these agencies even know they're using pictures of the right family?!) Message boards are filled with hateful comments from people who didn't know this family. A woman lost her family in one cruel act and strangers think they have a right to judge.
I just want to ask each of you to say a little prayer for my friend and hug your kids today. In the past two weeks, I've had other friends who have experienced personal tragedies. Each of them have made me take a closer look at my own life, be thankful for the life I have, and have made me work hard to not sweat the small stuff.
(Thank you for letting me get it out!)
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